Sexual relations undergo a form of “change” during the nine months of pregnancy. This does not mean that sex will be less enjoyable or that is should be avoided. In fact, many couples report that their sexual desire increases during the nine months of pregnancy.
It is normal for the libido of a pregnant woman to decrease during the first and last months of pregnancy. During the first weeks of pregnancy a woman may be experiencing nausea, painful breasts and fatigue. The last month of pregnancy may bring about aches and pains in the back and abdomen as well as a general feeling of fatigue.
Many expectant couples have fears that sexual intercourse will hurt the baby, or the expectant mother. Many couples fear that orgasm will stimulate early labor or even a miscarriage. In a normal pregnancy, sexual intercourse will not hurt the mother or the fetus. Likewise, having an orgasm in a normal pregnancy will not hurt the baby or bring on labor or miscarriage. Some studies even report that couples who stay sexually active during their pregnancy may actually lower the chances of premature labor.
There are instances when sex may be restricted. In the case of a high risk pregnancy, sexual intercourse may be limited at certain times. Sexual intercourse may also be restricted if the mother has unexplained bleeding, a history of miscarriages, a history of premature labors, a twin pregnancy, or if the mother has placenta previa.
If your doctor tells you not to have sex during pregnancy, find out what they mean. Do they mean no orgasms? Do they mean no intercourse? If a doctor tells you not to have sex, it is important to ask for how long. For example, a woman who has a slight bit of bleeding in the first trimester may be told to avoid intercourse and orgasm for the period of one week from the last episode of bleeding.
If you are unable to have sex in your favorite position. Be creative!
Call your health care provider if you’re unsure whether sex is safe for you. Also, call if you notice any unusual symptoms after intercourse, such as pain, bleeding, or discharge, or if you experience contractions that seem to continue after sex.
Remember, “normal” is a relative term when it comes to sex during pregnancy. You and your partner need to discuss what feels right for both of you.